I've always felt that we gays were our own worst enemies. I look at some of the shenanigans that go on at Folsom Street in San Francisco and at the Southern Decadence event in New Orleans and think that it's no wonder that "middle America" thinks that we're all a bunch of sex-obsessed kooks when the reality is that we are really just like everyone else. This issue is that the Media (writ large) is so focused on the sensational that they very often miss the real story.
I read a photo essay this morning about "The Closet Monster" and within it described the closet-case gay men who have worked tirelessly to make sure that we remain second class citizens in our own society. They do it for power, greed, and sometimes simply fear of being discovered as gay. Our society castigates gay men and women with such a vehemence that it is no wonder they are afraid. However, we have all been afraid. We have all had to bear the brunt of anti-gay animus and the fear of losing our jobs and homes to the oppression of the stupid, ignorant majority who don't want to, or care to, understand that their brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, fathers, mothers and children could be gay. If only all of the folks who are gay would simply say "enough" and let everyone know that they are gay, people would discover that we are all around you and you don't need to be afraid. I know it's easier said than done but there it is.
Take a look at this photo essay of some of the worst closet-case miscreants and see what damage they have done all in the name of fitting in. It is a real eye opener!